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Sex and Us



Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Colossians 3:5


"In our ongoing Forged in Fire sermon series, we've been exploring various life challenges. Today, let's delve into the complex issue of controlling sexual desires. This is a lifelong battle, regardless of age, marital status, or gender.

 

I vividly recall the challenges I faced as a teenager. The temptations to fantasize, masturbate, consume pornography, and navigate proper relationships with members of the opposite sex  were constant. And I am not alone in these struggles, of course. Some are open about these issues but most, especially Asians, see these as private issues. I share about them in writing or through my sermons because I want to encourage members to be open and share about their struggles. We are in church not to wear masks and pretend, but to encourage and help one another.

 

Today, the landscape has dramatically shifted, with digital technology making pornography readily accessible anytime, anywhere. The proliferation of easy social networking and free-mutual/paid sex services further complicates the issue.

 

Moreover, medical advancements have made contraception and aphrodisiacs more accessible, adding another layer of complexity. Beyond the physical and psychological aspects, sexual desire intersects with relational, social, and legal dimensions. Sexual abuse, whether domestic or school-related, can leave lasting trauma that may worsen as victims mature. Even as modern societies become more promiscuous in their outlook, ironically, they have also become more aware of sexual abuse. And thus, “me too.”

 

From a religious and social perspective, Christians face a unique set of challenges regarding sexual propriety. While some find these restrictions impractical, others view them as essential for personal growth and a healthy relationship with God and others.

 

During my sabbatical in 2014, I had the privilege of attending a human sexuality course at Wycliffe College in Toronto. The depth of the discussions and readings on biblical teaching highlighted the complexity of this issue and the need for ongoing reflection. As we continue to grow in our faith and navigate a society with evolving sexual norms, it's imperative that we engage in deeper conversations and explore these topics together.

 

Ultimately, our call to discipleship involves following Christ through the complexities of our sexual identity, embracing both its joys and its struggles."

 

 

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